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For various reasons – I’m keeping the post simple this week. The quote in the image above says all I want to say perfectly – so I thought I’d leave it at that.

Note: Whilst the quote in the above says ‘unknown’ as the source, a quick bit of googling attributes it to Mark Twain.

Have you regretted not acting on opportunities? Are you making sure you won’t regret not doing stuff in twenty years time? Let me know in the comments!

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When was the last time you did nothing?

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I recently realised that during my waking hours, I am always doing something. There is never a time when I am doing nothing. By doing nothing, I mean just having quiet time to think, mull things over or just relax and do nothing.

What is nothing?
To be clear, what I define as doing nothing is just that – just sitting there and breathing, that’s it. There are times when I am doing nothing productive, but I honestly can’t remember the last time I was doing absolutely nothing at all.

I wake, and then eat. When I am not at work I’ll be reading, writing, watching TV, playing the guitar or working out. I think that I get edgy when I have nothing to do, my attention span is so short that I always have to be doing something.

I read recently that the human brain is chemically conditioned to respond to new stimuli. This is why as humans, by nature we slip in to multi-tasking, the inevitable procrastination and the inability to finish anything. We chemically respond to new things to do and therefore we are always doing something, as new things crop up all of the time.

There is a trend for mediation in some circles. I don’t think that you need to go that far – mediation isn’t about being a hippy.

Here’s the simplest form of meditation that I am going to start to try:

1. Find somewhere quiet to sit.
2. Close your eyes.
3. Say a mantra (something like just saying “in and out” as you breath is fine).
4. If, and more likely when, you mind wanders, let it. Just relax, say your mantra and allow your mind to empty.

Before you approach meditation, it may be beneficial to do one of the following:
a) Not call it mediation. Just have quiet time.
b) Start with just 5 minutes.
c) Make time in your schedule to do this. You will benefit from it.

I’d love to hear other people’s experiences in this area. Do you meditate, or can you not remember the last time you truly did absolutely nothing?

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Suriving Information Overload [Part One]

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In the interests of limiting information overload, and partly because this post turned in to a bit of a rant, I’ve split this article in to several parts.

A few weeks ago I posted about how I was suffering from information overload. I decided to try and dramatically cut down on my consumption of information. Obviously this idea isn’t new, especially in productivity circles, with the much famed ‘media fast’ concept being coined by Tim Ferriss.

Here are my observations and learnings so far:

The amount of information we consume is directly controllable by ourselves. Aside from those snippets of information that we need to do our day jobs, or research a task that must be done – most of the information that we consume is unnecessary. Obviously there is nothing wrong with consuming all of this information, but there is a clear distinction (although it may not be clear at first) between required information, desired information and obligated information.

Allow me to explain:

1. Required Information
I class required information as that information, data or whatever that you require to do a given task, and more importantly a current rather than future task. It is important to make the distinction there – as you should only consume the information that you need to complete what you are currently working on or else the chances are that you will need to revisit the information which is inefficient use of both your time and attention span. Point to note here – only consume the information that you need to complete the current task.

2. Desired Information
This is information that you want to consume; this could be as it is related to a particular interest or hobby but not because it required to complete any tangible task. They key to this area is to make sure that you don’t control this activity so that it doesn’t take over your other tasks.

3. Obligated information.
This is information that you feel obligated to consume, but actually serves no purpose to further your own priorities. In our working lives there is a hell of a lot of this kind of information. This is why the CC field on email is a complete and utter pain! People CC the world on unimportant emails to justify their position or their worth. You feel that you need to consume this kind of information because if you don’t you might miss something important and be caught out in the future. Chances are that you will miss the odd thing but I doubt it will be disastrous, especially as most workplace ‘emergencies’ are false anyway.

When you think about the information you consume in these three categories, this is how I would suggest you limit your information intake:

1. Only use the required information you need to do the CURRENT activity. Learn to consume the right amount of information, don’t overload yourself with information, as this will only make the task harder to complete.

2. Understand the desired information that you consume because you want to or more specifically because it takes you towards your goals. Be careful not to kid yourself that you want all this information (see blogs and news point below).

3. Cut down 99% of obligated information consumption. I would suggest that you probably obligate yourself to consume far more information than you actually need to. So what if you miss something, it’s not going to be the end of the world is it? Understand the difference between required and obligated information.

In the next part I look at the cutting down blogs and news information.

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What do you do then?

You know the scene well. You turn up at a party or a meet a friend of a friend and the small talk starts. Very early on (if not one of the first things that is said) you hear or ask that question. The question that most people hate to answer. But you answer it anyway.

“What do you for a living?”

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My eyes roll, my toes curls and I let out a small sigh.

“I work in IT, it’s really boring. What do you do?”

I find that this short, uninteresting answer does one of three things.

1. Shifts the focus back on them so you don’t spend the next 15 minutes talking about your day job.
2. Give them the opportunity to spout on about their day job for the next 15 minutes.
3. Due to the short uninterested response means that the small talk is over and the conversation is dead.

Here’s the thing, it’s not that I don’t want to be polite and get to know people. Of course work takes up so much of our lives that it is inevitable that people will spend a lot of time talking about it. It’s the fact that people (generalisation) define themselves and others by what they do.

The thing is, if you have a boring desk based job people don’t ask you any questions about it. However, my friends that work in the Police or Doctors get quizzed about what they have seen recently constantly. No-one asks me if i’ve sent any interesting emails recently.

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I am often tempted to answer that question with “I’m an astronaut”. Unfortunately I have neither the confidence, acting skills or personality to pull of a convincing routine in that department.

There are some schools of though that state that you should answer they question with what you want to be, maybe I’ll try that next time. I’m trying to come up with a better bit of small talk to slot in place of that question, maybe I’ll start with asking “Do you play any instruments?” as I would be far more interested in anything people have to say about being musical than them talking about the internal admin they had to deal with this week.

What if I miss something great?
The thing is that you are still going to find out what people do, it’s still going to come up and you can latch on to it if it is something really cool. We must not forget that some people love what they do and are able to wake up pursuing their passion everyday – though you’ll probably find that these people are in the minority. If they do pursue such a path, I’m sure it will become obvious early in the conversation anyway.

Do you have any thoughts on this stance or any alternative questions that could be asked? Please share your ideas in the comments below.

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